My self-care advent calendar
Countdown to Christmas, but with some self-care thrown in for good measure!
I'm writing to you in this odd space between Christmas and New Years. Quite honestly I feel like these days are all Sundays.. just me?! Here I am embracing the 'self-care Sunday' marathon session!
As I've got a spare few minutes I wanted to share with you my advent calendar this year. I decided that giving myself space, time and moments would be the best care on the run up to Christmas. So I wrote 24 self-care instructions. Each morning with my steaming cup of coffee I would open the date, and see how I could complete the task in the day.
When I was planning these dates, I took into consideration activities I had already got in the diary, and I made sure they were do-able. Some examples have been...
"I give myself permission to take time to massage oil into my skin"
"I give myself permission to enjoy a Christmas film (and popcorn!)"
As you can see I started each self-care with giving myself the permission. I feel sometimes we need that reminder; that It's OK to have time for ourselves, It's OK to put ourselves higher up the list, and it's OK to ask others to help us- whether that be to mind our children, or to join us! Don't feel you can't complete self-care tasks if you have the children around, just make sure to include them (you could invite for a film or baking) or to let them enjoy a task for themselves whilst you are being present with them (with a hot cuppa) letting your mind dream, drift and not rushing.
I've had mixed feelings on how this has worked out, on the one hand I realise just how much I put myself down the list! I've realised that for me to feel chilled out and 'ready' for self-care I have to have completed x,y and z. This is a working progress.
However I've also found the freedom and the love of doing things for me! doing things that excite me, bring me small bursts of happiness and serve me in a way that I can then serve others.
Somethings as little as taking a long bath, with a book really changes my mindset for the better, meaning I am happier in myself and so I have more patience for those around me.
I also found that saying 'yes' to myself and my self-care sometimes means saying 'no' to someone else or an event. I have weighed these up and have decided in the moment, and on the day. I didn't worry myself too much over this, I just went with the flow and embraced the result that served me the best in that moment.
I will be doing this again next year, I may have a bowl of self-care ideas to dip into when I feel like it! One thing is for sure, I will be spreading the self-care love a lot more in 2019!