5 tips to remember this Christmas
With a young family I’m starting to accept that Christmases filled with nights out, fizz at any given time and lots of chocolate are a thing of the past (for now) This is my choice and I’m happy with it- it’s just taking some adjustment!
I’ve been thinking of 5 tips to share to be mindful of as a new or young family for this festive season.
1. Nap time is still nap time! We know that most people do well with a rest in the midst of a busy time! Nap time may not fall at the same time over the festive period but know everyone will benefit from a sleeping baby! If this means in a carrier, going out for a walk or settling in another room, your baby or child will thank you for it- and you may enjoy some peace for 5 minutes!
2. You are your child’s advocate- speak up for them! If you visit new friends and family it can be quite overwhelming, especially being a smaller size, if they would rather hide behind your legs or not make eye contact, that’s ok. Greet your friend or relative to model how they could approach it and maybe once your child has warmed up they might be ready for wave goodbye later in the day!
3. It’s ok to spread out the present opening! Some children will enjoy ripping all the paper off and playing with an empty box! Others will be engrossed in the first thing they open, try not to break their concentration by offering more toys to open!
4. Snack times, lunch times, sugar high times! I’m still trying to navigate myself around this one- I find myself grazing all day, so when it’s a meal time and my daughter doesn’t eat why aren’t I surprised! My aim is to have some ready cut up fruit and veg to have alongside the snacking department so I can make better choices for us all!
5. Follow the child! I can’t state this enough, whether you have a little one, a toddler or a bigger child, take your lead from them- if you truly watch and listen you will understand how they are in a situation and how you can help them. It might be that they need 5 minutes away from the busy area, a run outside to let of steam, a simple meal or extra cuddles in the day. It’s a strange, exciting and busy time of year, have a little patience and listen in.
I don’t have strict routines made against times, I have rhythms of the day- to give my daughter a sense of knowing, I’ve found I need to make these more apparent or have longer connection in the day- a good way to reconnect at the end of a busy day is time for reading books, skin to skin time- a shared bath time is fun, singing, dancing, giggling, playing with playdoh or drawing will all help in releasing the extra emotions.
And remember at the end of the day, when the babies are fast asleep and the husbands are snoring on the sofa, take time out for you! A cuppa tea and thinking of a gratitude list will do wonders for the mind.
Merry Christmas all! x