3 steps to self care
Why do I think self care is so important?
Because I know what it feels like to burn the candle at both ends, to feel like a failure in all areas of your life and to struggle to ask for help, because you are a wonder woman and don’t want to take that cape off!
Believe me when I say you are STILL a wonder woman and that cape is never coming off! In the eyes of your child you are their world, their number one! Remember when you just had to look at your little bundle and they smiled or laughed? When your toddler gets excited and runs to your arms? Or when your child leans in for a nigh time kiss..
Hello Super mumma! But we also need to care for ourselves so we have the strength and thinking space to be that person, if we spread our love and energy to everyone but ourselves eventually, we won’t be able to carry on in a calm and present manner. We will get tired, frustrated, easily worked up and may even shout (and then feel mega guilty whilst your toddler has gotten over it quicker)
Knowing when you need to slow down and share the care with someone else is your first step to recognising your need for self care.
Then deciding what lights you up is your second step. Have a think today and note it down, have a list of free activities and paid ones, ones to complete on your own or with other people (at a distance..!)
What do you enjoy listening to?
What brings a smile to your face when you see it?
What comforts you when you are feeling down?
When you are having a jump out of bed- top of the world day, what is it that has added to your high spirit?
Now your third step and beyond is to put it into practice, you could start with an evening, or an afternoon, self care can be done around your children – but to get full peace and thinking time have some me time alone. A good balance is key!
You may have to ask a partner or family member to look after your child, you may have to book a certain time or day in, or you may be able to grab pockets of time when they come up – this is when the list is handy. Have it somewhere nearby and when you do have that free time check the list and away you go!
I managed a walk with my dog yesterday evening, my partner got home from work in time, my daughter had a nap in the day so I knew bedtime would be 20 minutes later than usual so I grabbed the dog and my headphones and off I went, I walked where my feet took me, I listened to a podcast which made me laugh and I enjoyed the evening sun. I came back feeling fuller, happier and lighter. I was able to achieve bedtime with ease and had a nice evening laughing and reconnecting with my partner.
So tell me, what can you do to carve out some me time I would love to hear what you get up to on social media – please tag me with ‘#sophieselfcare’